Need Friendly Advice

[QuestionAsker]

OK im not the best writer so im just going to make this as short and as simple as possible. I am a 20 year old male who have been though alot of pain. I never liked asking for help since i was always afraid of being weak in the eyes of others. Though I do know it's not the case but old habits are hard to break. I have grown up in a christian family and I give thanks to god for the people in my life, But I feel so lost right now. I guess it's the depression from the death of my mother a few years ago. I try my best to be a good christian but i feel that i may be doing something wrong. I dont go to church like I should but at the same time i feel that I can serve god anywhere I go may it be in my home or at work, ect, and that church shouldnt feel like something you "have" to go to be promised ever lasting life or receive gods love. Though I could be wrong. Basicly I feel traped, confused, and scared. As if my energy is being sucked out of me. So there is one of my problems. I thank god for people like you around to help people like me. And I thank you for takeing the time out to listen to me. May god and peace be with you

[InTheWind]

Sounds like me and some others i know, we all get depressed and sometimes it can really mess with your mind.
What works best for me is every day when i start thinking negatively i think about positive things, sounds silly but after a while it helps.
I don`t belong to a church either because of some health problems and it bugs me too sometimes, i feel like i`m letting God down and not getting involved enough.
But then on the other hand a lot of churches i see i wouldn`t want to go too anyway because of their doctrine and politics.
God knows you better than you do and if ya have real good talks with Him every day in prayer i`ve found that over time things start getting better.
If we could solve all the problems ourselves we would have no need for God and that isn`t what He wants.
Hope that helps a little and welcome to the board and glad ya found us. :):

[CoreIssue]

Adding to what ITW said, we live in rough times, spiritually speaking.

So many pretend and sterile Christians. So many who hate God.

What you are feeling is more and more common among Biblical Christians. We feel very alone, even isolated, at times.

[kay-gee]

yes, indeed......but it is a real joy to be a part of a fellowship. It's all about sharing, whether that be our sorrows or joys.....all the best.......

[CoreIssue]

yes, indeed......but it is a real joy to be a part of a fellowship. It's all about sharing, whether that be our sorrows or joys.....all the best.......
No argument. Sad the good fellowships are getting fewer and farther inbetween.

[QuestionAsker]

Well I thank all of you for the advice and kind word. I have to say i felt better wakeing up this morning so thats good. just have to take it one step at a time.

[CoreIssue]

Well I thank all of you for the advice and kind word. I have to say i felt better wakeing up this morning so thats good. just have to take it one step at a time.
So extremely true.

[kay-gee]

All this talk about mega-churches. I cannot even conceive of it. I attended service this morning, and including myself there were 9 people. We sang our songs of praise and remembered Christ by partaking of His body and blood in symbol. (Bread and grape juice).Heard a lesson about mothers, and their role in Gods plan. (mothers day). Took up a collection (about $20) No preachers getting rich here! Pretty much like the church described in the NT. Wouldn't do it any other way. all the best......

[CoreIssue]

All this talk about mega-churches. I cannot even conceive of it. I attended service this morning, and including myself there were 9 people. We sang our songs of praise and remembered Christ by partaking of His body and blood in symbol. (Bread and grape juice).Heard a lesson about mothers, and their role in Gods plan. (mothers day). Took up a collection (about $20) No preachers getting rich here! Pretty much like the church described in the NT. Wouldn't do it any other way. all the best......
Here we agree big time.

[kay-gee]

Great!.......all the best.........