Paul / Saul,VS the Lord

[roman8]

My question to all of you is ......

I am married to an athiest, we were married in Las Vegas ( sin City) 3 years ago, I have been told by people that I am unevenly yolked, and that I shouldnt be married to him.

But .. the bible is very clear, that if the unbelieving husband is happy to stay I am not to leave, that I should remain in the place that I was called.

My real question is .. Why is it that Paul is giving this command and not the Lord .

he says specificly... NOT THE LORD BUT I SAY ...
But all scripture is inspired , right?

I beleive that every word of the bible is there for some reason, so why does the Lord command some things for Christian couples but then leaves it up to Paul for others?

[CoreIssue]

God speaks through his Prophets and Apostles. He was speaking through Paul, here.

The full context of what Paul says is don't get hitched to a non-believer. But, if you do, then you have entered into a sacred vow you are to keep unless they violated it by the terms he lays out.

He is warning believers that you will have conflict and problems if you join yourself with a non-believer.

Those who understand what yoking a team of ox, horses and such together means.

If they are a good, equal team, they will pull equally and peacefully key off of each other in their work.

If they are not, one will pull too hard, stop pulling, pull at random strengths, try to bit the other and so on. All that happens is they wear each other out and frustrate their owner.

So, how does an owner fix such? He break the team apart before the good animal gets ruined. Puts it by itself or with an new team mate.

The trouble maker normally gets sold to someone else.

[roman8]

I am still a little confused here.

It is very hard living with someone who doesnt share or care to share your beliefs.
Who thinks that you are being brain washed or involed in some sort of cult. He has gone as far as saying that I need an intervention ( what ever that means)

I care for him and have tried to explain things to him , but I guess because I am a new christian I need to learn how to wittness better, without pushing people away, but I feel a desperation to have him understand the importance it .

Our values clash alot now on a great many different issues.

Money for one thing , I have my own source of income and feel that I should tithe but he refuses to have me give away my money to the church , so I do it in secret ( which is not good either)

So are you saying is that right here where I am is where I should be , and that if God ( being my owner) wants to seperate me he will do it , that I am not to do it , am I correct in that.

So others telling me that I should not be married to this man , have no bussiness doing so, that it is not for them to say.

You also said that only if the other person violates what is commanded , what things are violated there are no commands for the unbeleiver?

[CoreIssue]

I am still a little confused here.

It is very hard living with someone who doesnt share or care to share your beliefs.
Who thinks that you are being brain washed or involed in some sort of cult. He has gone as far as saying that I need an intervention ( what ever that means)

That is what unequal yoking is all about.
I care for him and have tried to explain things to him , but I guess because I am a new christian I need to learn how to wittness better, without pushing people away, but I feel a desperation to have him understand the importance it .

If he does not want to understand, he never will.

And who says you are exclusively pushing him away? Is he not pushing you away, as well?
Our values clash alot now on a great many different issues.

Yep. Guaranteed to happen.
Money for one thing , I have my own source of income and feel that I should tithe but he refuses to have me give away my money to the church , so I do it in secret ( which is not good either)

OK. First point is there is no such thing as a tithe in the Church. Freewill offering, yes, but nothing mandatory in a legal sense.

Does he not spend money on things you obect to?

It is not mandatory to give to a church. You can give in charity to christian back causes as well. Maybe one he does not frown upon.
So are you saying is that right here where I am is where I should be , and that if God ( being my owner) wants to seperate me he will do it , that I am not to do it , am I correct in that.

Not saying where you should be, or not. But most certainly now that you have entered in you have an obligation.
So others telling me that I should not be married to this man , have no bussiness doing so, that it is not for them to say.

That is right.

They are like the Apostles telling Christ not to go into the tavern to preach to those most in need of hearing him.

Such thinking makes Christians ineffective.
You also said that only if the other person violates what is commanded , what things are violated there are no commands for the unbeleiver?
There are laws for unbelievers. Because they do not read them does not mean they do not apply to them.

Every command in the Bible is available to them. They violate them either willingly or through self ignorance.

Commands that are for you are such as if he commits adultry.