Singleness Versus Married

[KRISSY]

Does singleness gives christians more time, committment and dedication to God? Do single christians really enjoy their relationship with the Creator? What about married couples do they have a more organised schedule relationship with the Creator?:pray:

[CoreIssue]

I have always found that to be a tough issue.

One one hand, a single does not have the commitments and devotion to a spouse, children and so on that take time away from working for God.

On the other, if a good marriage, do not have the distractions and frustrations of unsatisfied sex drive, lonliness and other issues that can hamper clear thinking. Or concerns over kids.

Only the most unique person can be working for God 24/7. Even in the Bible there was a lot of waiting times between work, for most.

And many of the most powerful figures were married.

I say it depends upon the individual. But keeping in mind a preacher and such, Biblically, is suppose to have a wife and kids, I would say the kind of work determines if single or married is best suited.

[preacherbob]

What a wonderful question. Single or Married you have the same power, sanctification, and works of God.
The Bible (Word of God) is for individuals and for couples as well. The same Holy Spirit lives with us as an individual as well as when we couple with a mate. Yes we are geared to find that mate but the Holy Spirit(God) does not separate His Word regarding being matched. Refer to Ruth, Deborah, and even Mary M., They were not married but had the full ear of God. David was not married nor was blessed with a lady when he was young but enjoyed the full blessing of God.
When we do join up with the person we choose and love and want to be the blessing of marriage though there are some articles that we should study to see if indeed this is what we should do in the eyes of God. Mat. Mark, and Luke are full of info. Col. and Eph. has good advice. Prov. 31 the best advice for a lady's behavior. My wife is that. Wonderful love, wonder, and giver. For a man's behavior....The new testament is full of it!!!!!!! May a man make a way for his wife, build a home for her, provide a safe keeping for her, provide for his children, and the list goes on........Hope this helps. Rev. Robert C. LeBuhn

[Chrystalwuzhere]

I'm not married, and honestly, don't have any wish to be. Not that I am in any way opposed to marriage, but I know it's not for me. You could say I'm set in my ways at the age I am now, and quite content.

I can't speak as to what is better. It truly does depend upon the person. FOR ME, I prefer this way. But, living a life of celibacy cannot be done by most people. Humans are sexual in nature, it's how the species survives. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being sexual. But, as you know, it must be within the confines of marriage. Some people cannot govern themselves to the point where they can go without.

So, truly, it does depend upon the person.

Since I'm not married, naturally I can spend the time I would devote to a husband and children with Him and focus on Him. However, this is what makes me happy. But, what about the people who long to have a family, and find that having a family makes them happy? They'll never be happy without one, or content to live a life alone.

There are many variables concerned in this issue.

[a.baker]

I don't like to admit it and I get angry with myself, but since I have gotten to know Jesus there are so many times where I wanted to pick up and just leave and live 100% for God. But I don't and won't. I love my family too much and I think it would severely upset God if I left my motherly and wifely duties. I think it would please Him most for me to stay here. But if I had to do all over again, I don't think I would marry. I am in a very good marriage and have the best daughter in the world, but my underlying passion is for Him.

[preacherbob]

Each individual has a thing called "free will". God has given all of us a talent, gift, and a definite drive to do what He wills us to do. Ruth met her new husband through the action of God. Mary M. did not but remained faithful to Jesus. (some dispute there) . In Jeramiah 17:9 the base is that God knows the heart. He knows, and mostly we do not even know our own heart. If we live in a non marriage, non sex situation..so be it. Our choice. If we live in a married..and I do say in a VERY married situation...so be it. Your child was not born by accident. You allowed it to happen according to your will and Gods will. For that I am sure you are blessed beyond anyone elses knowledge or joy. Search your own heart..Would you have rather given life to the daughter you love so much or do without her if you knew the choice earlier in life? Marriage is so wonderful. Full of head aches, heart aches, accidents, stupidity, hurt, mis trust, and full of care, wonder, happiness, God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, personal growth, dual growth, wonder, and above some...Children which God has made possible. I do not really know you, or your heart, but I think you made the right decision. Have a family. You already have one..some folks are just wanting one. If I could just put the emotion into words. I cannot. You have what God (I am sure) planned for you. Maybe He has some Great, Great, plans for you or your husband, and moreover...YOUR daugher. .................As in..If I had only fathered a guy like Billy Grahm. Think about it, pray about it and don/t be disappointed...be Blessed and Know it. Rev. LeBuhn..Again I will pray for you. I don't know you but guess who does......my Lord my God and my Savior...and about a few thousand Angels. Be happy and joy filled...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[kay-gee]

And yet Chrystal...always be prepared for the unexpected. Someone could walk into your life, and your whole notion about it change, in the twinkling of an eye. Take it from me, it does happen!

all the best...

[Chrystalwuzhere]

And yet Chrystal...always be prepared for the unexpected. Someone could walk into your life, and your whole notion about it change, in the twinkling of an eye. Take it from me, it does happen!

all the best...

I wholeheartedly agree! :nod:

I guess I should say it like this.... I'm not actively looking, nor do I want to get married. However, tomorrow, or some day in the future, I could possibly meet someone that absolutely changes my mind, and I wouldn't be able to imagine my life without them. Ya never know. Ya know?

I suppose it would be safer to say that as of right now, I'm happy as I am. But, I'm still not looking for it to happen. :lol:

[Freeman]

I was hoping you could offer me some advice, one christian to another?
I need help knowing if this is a prayer I should be praying to be answered. I made a list and was honest with the Heavenly Father about the good vs the bad about my prayer. I have been honest with my self and not made it an issue of lust but about truely being with this person and marrying them.
I have asked the heavenly father about bringing me and another child of his together in Holy Matrimony. But only if it is Gods will and not mine. I have also asked that if it be what the Heavenly Father wants for us, let us be led to each other in a way the is fit in Gods eyes.
I have prayed as the persistant widow has for several days and have continually been open in my conversations with God about why I would like to come to know him and eventually marry him. But I need help from other God fearing but also others who love the Heaveny Father.On whether I am treating God ike a vending machine or reay praying a good prayer.

[patgreen]

Please read 1 corinthians. Paul speaks about staying single or choosing to marry. It's in the first few chapters. I think 5 or 6.

[in his name]

I was hoping you could offer me some advice, one Christian to another?
I need help knowing if this is a prayer I should be praying to be answered. I made a list and was honest with the Heavenly Father about the good vs the bad about my prayer. I have been honest with my self and not made it an issue of lust but about truly being with this person and marrying them.
I have asked the heavenly father about bringing me and another child of his together in Holy Matrimony. But only if it is Gods will and not mine. I have also asked that if it be what the Heavenly Father wants for us, let us be led to each other in a way the is fit in Gods eyes.
I have prayed as the persistent widow has for several days and have continually been open in my conversations with God about why I would like to come to know him and eventually marry him. But I need help from other God fearing but also others who love the Heavenly Father.On whether I am treating God like a vending machine or relay praying a good prayer.
doesn't sound like you are using him as a vending machine. Talk to him like the father whom he is . To me he is my father and best friend who will always have my back. He will never let you down if you ask him from the heart and not the head.If he thinks this is what you need he will make the opportunity available for you to meet and talk with this person.maybe just sit back and listen to him and he will tell you. Sometimes if you concentrate on the prayer and not on listening you miss the opportunity he has given you.:swoon: